How to Be Successful in Life Without Hurting Others
Don’t we just hate the guy that learns how to be successful in life by shooting others down?
We’d like to think that they’ll get their karma, and I believe they will. Because the people who really learn how to be successful in life know that when you learn how to help others, you help yourself.
And, since I’m committed to helping you, I have outlined here three steps to help you learn how to be successful in life…
1 – Begin with right thinking to achieve success in life.
You may have heard before that the “mindset thing” is everything. And it is. You must believe in yourself, and here’s why: Suppose you have a real estate business and you continue to think to yourself, “I’m just wasting my time with this guy, he’ll never buy”. If that’s your attitude, you’re right! As Henry Ford said, “Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t, either way, you’re right.”
Psychologists have proven that the mind will store away an image of the way we think we are, and that image gets acted upon, whether consciously or unconsciously, and we begin to change based on our beliefs in ourselves.
It has also been proven that the human body consists of completely different makeup, brain cells and all, after seven years. Choose your thoughts carefully and don’t let your thoughts control you. Because it’s your thoughts that dictate your decisions, and your decisions dictate your actions.
I’m not saying that you need to “trick yourself” to a different way of thinking just to learn how to be successful in life…
Begin with what you have. You are good at some things, so all you have to do is just build on that. And this brings me to step two…
2 – Commit to stretching yourself to achieve success in life.
I recently heard that you know you’re beginning to learn how to be successful in life when you’re comfort zone becomes uncomfortable. You are no longer happy working in your cubical at work and you want something more.
Continue to focus on that and ask yourself what you can do to learn how to become better at what you do. And, at first, this appears to be a risk. We all resist change, even if it’s for the better.
For example, a study was done on Macy’s employees to advance to management. At first, Macy’s was hiring people from the outside with college degrees to be managers.
The employees got together with the union to protest about this because they felt, and rightfully so, that people who already work at Macy’s should have this opportunity. So they agreed, and here’s what they did: They offered a training program that people could agree to go through to learn management skills.
This would give them the opportunity to become better in their field without having the expense of going to college, and also could guarantee them a management position. Great idea, right?
You’d think so… but guess how many people out of 100 employees took advantage of the agreement? Only three out of one hundred!
And that actually jives with statistics of those who do achieve success in life… Out of every hundred people, only 3% find their way to financial independence, while 42% find a way to earn a living successfully by working their whole lives and at the mercy of someone else paying them for their services.
And that leaves, yeah right, 55% out of every hundred people find themselves either broke or in debt past the age of 65! I don’t know about you, but this was a real wake-up call for me, since I’m now approaching 60 years of age!
3 – Be happy with you, and build the “new evolved you” around something you truly enjoy doing.
A wise man once said that the way to become a millionaire is to find a way to make money at something you love to do. I’d like to take this one step further and say that when you can find a way to lead others to achieve success in life, then you have more than simply “success in life”… you have found true happiness.
We all change based on only two things: we’re trying to gain pleasure or resist pain. And here’s the dilemma; we start a venture because we’re motivated to learning how to be successful in life and we have high hopes of achieving financial success. But then fear kicks in when we attempt to step out of our comfort zone. Unfortunately, fear is a greater motivator than pleasure.
That’s why so many people who have learned how to achieve success in life came from a place of destitute, and fear motivated them to step out of their comfort zone and stretch. I’d like to motivate you to put your fears on the shelf and admit that they only thing there is to be afraid of is fear itself. In fact, it really all boils down to how you communicate with yourself.
For example, there are three people who come to mind that did NOT let fear of failure step in their way to achieving success in life…
There’s Babe Ruth, who was known as not only the “home run king”, but also the “strike out king”, because he struck out more times than any other baseball player in history. And there’s Michael Jordan, who was not even accepted on his own high school basketball team…
… and Sylvester Stallone who was born with defects and had to lose everything he had and turn down thousands of dollars to sell his Rocky story, only to convince the producers to allow him to act the lead role.
Maybe you just don’t know what you want to do and your “why power” just is not there yet. In this case, it might help to think about what you really hate to do, and then take the opposite of that and build on that dream.